The Second Life of Grandma’s Old Hankies

Old things have gradually found a place in my home. I have a great appreciation for rekindling a period of time when life moved at a slower pace than today. Grandma’s old handkerchiefs have replaced boxes of tissues many times. I keep a hankie in my purse, apron pocket, and bed stand. If my children have rubbed their little noses raw with paper tissues, grandma’s hankies never fail to soften the blow of a cold. The soft batiste cottons of times past are easy on the nose, the economy, and my budget.

Grandma has passed a few stacks of lovely old hankies on to me. Some hankies were folded neatly in a tissue box and paper, with a note about who embroidered them and who they belonged too. My Grandmother is a great family historian. I have found her old handkerchiefs to be a treasure. It is like having a little history in my pocket. I think about my grandmother, aunt, or great-grandmother who finely embroidered the hankie every time I blow my nose, or wipe a tear. Using old handkerchiefs brings me warmth and thoughtfulness for a brief moment. Not one of those hankies can be bought in a store today. I truly cherish them. In a world where paper has replaced finery, I like to bring a little charm back into my life, by incorporating practical pieces of history. For me, grandma’s old handkerchiefs are great additions to my daily life and add a personal touch in a sweet and easy way.

I do not like all things old, for me, it has to save me money, be practical, and it is nice if it belonged to someone I knew. Some other heirloom items I enjoy using in my home are old recipes, furniture, books, and dishes. I don’t keep something for the sake of keeping it. Although, there are a few exceptions to that rule. Overall,  like to be able to use a vintage item, not tuck it away in a chest. My grandmother’s old hankies are certainly one of my favorite keepsakes.

Pursuing Health for God’s Glory

My first reason for perusing health is that I have been given stewardship over my body and home. My body belongs to God and to my husband. As a believer I seek to be faithful in all God has entrusted to my care. My stewardship entails a great many things: finances, education, children, ministry, and boy, that is just a few. A good steward wouldn’t squander money wastefully on cheap trinkets, but would save and invest and make wise purchase. Just the same, I should not squander my health by eating unhealthy, smoking, or not being disciplined to exercise. My body belongs first to God. I care for it, for Him, not for myself. By caring for my body, I am enabling myself to serve God better and longer than I would if I did not care for myself and was sickly, weak, and tired. I understand, there are diseases and illnesses we endure, but I am still responsible to care for the body God gave me, not matter what its physical condition is.

The second person I am steward of my body for is for is my husband. On my wedding day, I pledged to be his until death parted us. I am doing my husband an injustice, by not caring for the body I gave him that day. Out of love for my husband, I need to tend to myself so I can think clearly, rest as needed, be as attractive as I am able, and eat, drink water, and exercise in order to be strong and healthy for his sake.

I have also been given stewardship over my household. Since I am the homemaker (a steward of the home), I am responsible for feeding my family and caring for them. Proverbs 31:14-15 “She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.” As the virtuous woman prepared food with thought and care, I feel it is my job to care about what I feed my family. It takes effort and I need to apply myself to knowledge about nutrition and make wise decisions for the health of my family. Even if that means bringing in foods from afar. I cannot adequately meet the nutritional needs of my family if I am ignorant how to do that. I want to know the ingredients on packages, vitamins in various vegetables, concerns of various unhealthy foods like sugars and fats. It is my job to know what food is in my home, not just blindly trust manufacturers, trying to sell me a product. So, if I don’t know what an ingredient is, I will look it up and learn about it. I am the one responsible for feeding my family, I need to be knowledgeable on nutrition, ingredients, and the nutrients a human body needs to prepare balanced, wholesome meals for my family.

Food is a ministry to others. Having knowledge of ingredients and nutrition has opened doors for me to have people in our home or take meals to people with specific dietary needs and restrictions. Without that knowledge, I would find it intimidating to make a meal for a diabetic friend, and would be far more likely be inclined to do nothing. If I am unable to work with various ingredients, recipes, or create balanced meals for others, I hinder the ministry of my home. Galatians 6:2 “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Even at home, I am better able to minister to my family by knowing ingredients that will comfort and heal. Such as being able to cook a bowl of bone broth with garlic and turmeric for my sick children, or being able to know what supplements to give my daughter with poor vision development, to help give her the best start in life I am able to give.

Discipline is a crucial part of a life that brings God glory. To be able to be controlled in my personal eating habits or exercise is very important, but I am also training children who have no concept of what to eat and why. I not only teach my children discipline by example, but by limiting their indulgence. If they had their way, my children would live on candy and ice-cream. I must teach my children to be faithful stewards of the earthly bodies they have been given. I want my children to have an idea of when it is time to stop. So, like most mothers, my children have boundaries and limits when it comes to food. I also must take care not to allow myself to be enslaved to anything…even coffee or chocolate. I must be in control of what I eat. “All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be dominated by anything” I Corinthians 6:12.

Eating for God’s glory means I don’t eat carelessly. I don’t put food in my mouth for myself, but for His glory. That means I will not overeat, I will not indulge my flesh on tasty things for my sake. And with a grateful I will also enjoy the food God has given. I will not be a food snob. I will use food as a tool to minister to others. And I will also refrain from eating and drinking certain foods if it will cause offence to other Christians. So, absolutely, I will eat foods I don’t believe are healthy, out of kindness to others and for the gospel sake. “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. Give no offense to Jews or to Greeks or to the church of God, just as I try to please everyone in everything I do, not seeking my own advantage, but that of many, that they may be saved” I Corinthians 10:31-33.

Now a brief disclaimer. I very much understand that a certain body image is marketed in our culture. That “perfect” image should never be goal of Christian women. We simply do the best we have with the body God has given us. Being skinny is not the point. Being pretty is out of the question. We are responsible to the best we can with the body God gave us, even if we have a slow metabolism or diseases that hinder us from our idea of a healthy look. Perusing health to bring God glory is all about the heart, not the body.

Honey Sugar Scrub

I give my skin a gentle, moisturizing mask and scrub about once a week. I love the deep cleansing and moisture this mask provides.

I use five basic ingredients to make honey sugar scrub.

Coconut Oil: Although coconut oil has large fatty chains, it works well as a facial mask and body scrub because it is washed off with hot water. I find the hot water breaks down the oil and opens my pores, allowing the nutrient rich oil to soak into my skin. Coconut oil fights microbes and helps prevent skin damage from pollution and bacteria. It also is rich in anti-oxidants and vitamin E which is ant-aging and nourishing for skin. It also helps reduce inflammation so dry skin, eczema, and damaged skin are helped by the components found in coconut oil.

Raw Honey: Not enough can be said about the benefits of raw honey. I have used honey as a face wash and found it firmed and healed my skin. It is antioxidant rich and a scientifically renowned healer. It smooths out complexion and slows down aging due to its moisturizing and antioxidant rich properties.

I loved how my face felt when I used plain honey as a face wash, but it was simply too sticky and messy to keep up, so I started mixing it with coconut oil in the coconut honey facial scrub. I use the thick unfiltered version. It makes a better paste than the liquid raw honey.

Sugar: I experimented with raw sugar, coconut sugar and granulated sugar. The granulated sugar is fine and works the best in this scrub. It is included solely as a gentle exfoliant.

Vitamin E: I include E in this mask simply to boost the nutrients of the mask on my skin. Coconut oil already contains vitamin E which is similar in its effects because it is has antioxidants and helps skin combat enemies like eczema, dryness, healing, psoriasis, and sun damage. I like to add a little more to give this scrub a little more oomph.

Vanilla Essential Oil: This is a rich vanilla oil, regular vanilla could be used, but the smell from the oil vanilla is far more incredible than cooking vanilla. I use it completely for its wonderful scent, but vanilla is anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant rich as well.

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Measure:

1/2 cup coconut oil (not melted-room temp)

1/2 cup Raw honey (thick-not liquid)

1/2 cup granulated sugar

2-3 squeezed capsules of vitamin E oil (cut and squeeze in oil/liquid vitamin E can also be used)

10 drops vanilla essential oil

Whip:

Whip ingredients with a hand mixer at full speed until fluffy. If the mixture whips too long, it will melt. If that happens, chill, and re-whip once cold.

Use:

Honey sugar scrub can be used as a body scrub, foot and hand treatment, or as a facial mask and scrub. I usually rub it on my face and neck ten minutes before my morning shower and wash it off with hot water in the shower. I often follow up with vinegar rose toner and a little cold cream as part of my natural skin-care routine.

A Healthy Perspective on Health and Nutrition

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I will begin by saying that health and nutrition are an important aspect of my life as a homemaker. I believe having knowledge about health and nutrition is invaluable as I care for my family and share hospitality with others. I the health knowledge I have gleaned from books, doctors, and friends as a way I can minister to the needs of my family, or anyone, if need be. However, I have learned, through time, that it is easy for my passion about health to become a sin. So I use great caution as I pursue a healthy lifestyle for my family. It is important that I keep my heart focused on glorifying God even in my strong perspectives about food and natural living. I believe all homemakers must keep their mindset toward health and nutrition in place, or it will become a sin. We must value God more than anything and rest in His sovereign power in our lives. So… heart check…

There are sins I have recognized that can come from a pursuit of health food and natural living. But people who don’t follow the natural path to health still foster the same sins. We all choose who we trust, whether it is a traditional doctor, a book, conference, vitamins, medicine, YouTube, or holistic doctor. We each try to choose what we believe is the wisest method of health for ourselves and our family. Those who eat traditional foods can still make a god of food by not having discipline over what they eat. Using conventional medicine can cause one rely on a nerve pill instead of lavender oil to control. Even in an illness, like cancer, one can try to control the outcome through natural methods or chemotherapy. It is important to consider the reasons we pursue health, so the sins we struggle with to health get addressed.

The following are six sins that I have dealt with in my life about my passion with health, nutrition, natural living and clean food:

1) A god- This is when natural living controls me. I think about it constantly. I spend too much money on healthy foods, cleaning supplies, supplements, water, or essential oils. Making healthy food becomes more important than spending time with my children. I might prove the time by saying I believe I am doing what is best for my family, but in the light of eternity, on my deathbed, I doubt I am will be sorry that I didn’t grow more micro-greens or grow more fermented vegetables. My children need me, far more than they need home-made yogurt. Food is not eternal. In fact, poor health, cancer, autoimmune disorders, are not eternal either. But those little souls watching me obsess about my false god of natural living, are eternal. Healthy eating is a temporary pursuit, not eternal one. It can also be a huge distraction from the eternal perspective I should have. Since it is my spiritual health that is of value, a chronic disease might be a gift from the Lord to draw my heart to His. No amount of healthy eating will stop His sovereign best. So, it is vital that I guard my heart against becoming a worshiper of health, and keep it in its place.

2) Control- healthy living gives illusion control. Essentially, God is sovereign over all things. Scripture states that “Whatever the LORD pleases, He does, In heaven and in earth, in the seas and in all deeps” Psalm 135:6. Some extremely unhealthy eaters, can live to ripe old ages, while a gluten-free organic-kale-eater can get cancer and die in his twenties. It is easy to think that I have the power control the health of myself and my family through nutrition. That is when I am resting in my control, not God. Prayer might be a better pursuit.

Romans 9:19-21, Isaiah 45:9-10, Job 42:2, and many other passages in Scripture point out our frailty as the created, and God’s sovereignty as our maker. Ecclesiastes 3:3-8 speaks of the times and seasons given to men. We are unable to choose those seasons for ourselves. It is 100% God who dictates the times and seasons for each person. We must surrender our ideal, in exchange for the perfect design God has for our lives to bring Him glory.

I find great comfort in resting in God’s sovereignty, as I pursue nutrition and natural living. In fact, I can even seek out His wisdom in such matters. He can direct me to the right recourses and people, or bring ideas to my mind should I choose to ask. Sometimes He will show me a method that gives physical soothing or healing, other times it is opening my eyes to my need to surrender and accept my ailing flesh.

Now another aspect of control, is the mother who wants to control others, not just God through food. Like the mama who loses it when the nursery worker kindly gives her child a few fish crackers at snack time without seeking permission. Now, if there is a valid health concern, that scenario is different. But if Mama Bear is simply insisting everyone falls under her control about the preferential way of eating she has embraced, she has a problem. For while she might think she is upset that her child had goldfish crackers, she is really upset that she was not asked first. That mama wants control and uses food as a method to get that control. She wants to explain her story. She wants to make everyone in the nursery fall under the umbrella of her dietary restrictions for her child. Mama could use the goldfish crackers as a beautiful opportunity to show God’s grace to the nursery workers. Or she could put on bristle with attitude and completely destroy relationships and the testimony of Christ through her. See, we Mama’s forget that God loves our children more than we do. He can protect them from goldfish crackers if that is truly essential. But maybe God is most interested to see how Mama is going to respond in the given situation. If food is not used to bless, it becomes sin. It is not about Mama, or her baby…it is about God and His glory. Even Cheerios can be used to bring God glory, or cause strife. Mama needs to trust God for her baby, even when she is not asked about her eating standards.

3) Fear- I have often dealt with fear controlling my behavior not wisdom or sound doctrine from Scripture. Fear is a deceptive foe. It can make me feel justified in my pursuit of healthy eating far more than Scripture. I should never make decisions based upon fear, but fear is easy rely upon when it comes to health and safety. How often I have had my heart race after reading an article online about a health condition. I must first recognize my fear and stop. Fear is not from God. II Timothy 1:7 “for God gave us a spirit, not of fear, but of power and love and self-control.” If I find my heart is becoming consumed with fear about a health concern of myself or a loved one, I MUST get into the Word and regain my grasp on my Rock. Turning to solutions and answers in the world of nutrition or medicine will not solve my issue with fear. In fact, the sin of fear is more dangerous than to any physical illness. Illness is earthly, sin is eternal. Fear is sin. Fear is a lack of trust in God and a lack of submission to His sovereign plan. The only cure for any sin is a repentant heart, not an article discussing a cure for the health subject of concern. If my fear grows through my reading articles and mental ponderings, my joy in God slips away, and my mind becomes caged in by fear. At this point, godly counsel, prayer, and Scripture are the best recourse. Even when a heart caged in by fear, there is reason to rejoice, for the sin of fear is already conquered through the precious blood of Christ. I have the power in Christ to live a life free of fear and worry.

4) Unloving- I can find reasons in Scripture to eat well, but those reasons all fall under my created purpose to bring God glory. I do not bring God an ounce of glory if I neglect to partake in fellowship with others around food because simply because I am particular about what I eat. How many people would never know Christ if missionaries were particular about food instead of joining in the culture by eating the food of the culture? Food should never hinder the gospel. It would be wrong to decline an invitation to dinner out of concern of what might be served. Or go to a home and refuse to eat the food or negatively discuss the food. In fact, I don’t even do that with our extended family. Most of our family has no clue what we eat or don’t eat. They know I am health-conscious and careful, but when I have them over, or go to their homes, I serve foods they will enjoy and we eat the foods they serve without a word of concern. I trust God for His protection and best for us as I eat, and even enjoy foods served in love.

In our age of allergies, I find, most hostesses like myself try to serve the foods their company can eat, so I will ask guests what they like or can’t eat. Very often, I do not have difficulty preparing palatable foods within given limits. In fact, I enjoy the challenge of planning a menu within given perimeters. Food is a gift from God. It is a tool we can use to minister, comfort, and share in the gospel. Sharing food should unite people and help connect and build relationships. As a homemaker, I must use great caution that I never let food become something that causes discord. It isn’t worth damaging relationships over something as temporary as food. In Scripture, we are given a lot of leniency about food. It is truly a tool that we can use to remember and share in the gospel. Acts 10 and I Corinthians 8 beautifully discuss the food concerns of early believers. Our primary focus in our preparation and eating of food is to bring God’s glory through His gospel.

5) Pride- Oh my, this one is thick. I enjoy having knowledge of the human body, diseases, health issues, hormones, and the understanding of how to treat various issues through food avoidance and nutrition. However, I have found that it is easy to feel superior and more educated than those who have not read up on those subjects. I am being completely candid when I say that if I am not checking my heart, my chatter on health can have a fluting air. To God, pride is just as sinful as murder, so if healthy living draws out the sin of pride in me, I must be on guard while discussing health. “There are six things which the Lord hates, Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood” Prov. 6:16-17. “Haughty eyes” means to look down on someone condescendingly.

I have left conversations feeling convicted about touting my knowledge on health. Yes, I am passionate and somewhat versed about health and natural living. But to feel like I am an expert on the subject is no place for my heart to go. Health perspectives are like fashion. They are always changing. How am I supposed to know what is true or best? I am not looking and studying cases and the chemistry with microscopes. Just the other day, my children’s pediatrician told me not to use lavender or tea tree oil on my children’s skin, because it mimics estrogen and can cause early puberty. Years ago, the health food, soy, had a falling out for the same reason. How can I claim with any certainty what is healthy at all? To feel I know the best way to feed my family or treat their illness is simply wrong. God is in authority over my children’s health and I undermine His authority by having an attitude of pride. Yes, He has given me responsibility for the care of myself and my family. But that responsibility MUST be held with a submissive, humble heart toward God and with others. If I am not humble and submissive in my knowledge, then I am in the sin of pride.

Pride shows its colors in other ways as well. For instance, I realized pulling out my “Badger sunscreen” at the pool was with a heart of pride. I hoped another mother who would wonder why I chose that kind of sunscreen vs. her version. In essence, I was bragging about my product of choice and knowledge of that product. After recognizing that version of pride, I am very careful not to display my natural favorites. I use them as discreetly as possible. No one needs to know what we use and why. In fact, it is doubtful they even care.

6) Ingratitude- There are poor families all over our world who live on diets of only rice or corn. Yet, they have hearts full of gratitude just to have a meal a day. I doubt they concern themselves with whether their rice is organic or if their mush has too much sugar. Because our culture is so wealthy, we have the luxury of food partiality. Sadly, our particularity is often shared with our lack of true gratitude. It is a sin not be grateful for our food if we are not wholeheartedly accepting it as a gift from God. For some reason, He has chosen to bless us with abundance of food. We have even an expanse of variety. We can choose whether we want quick oats, organic oats, gluten-free oats, or gluten-free organic quick oats. How petty of us to become obsessed with the GMO’s in our food. God, who made thunder and lightning, can certainly care for the bodies He created. Our sickness in America is not food intolerance and vaccinations, it is ingratitude. Several passages in Scripture address thankfulness. Ephesians 5:20 says, “giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,” I can be equally grateful for a sugar laced, trans fat soaked doughnut  given to be with a generous heart as the green smoothie I made myself for breakfast.

Healthy living is not healthy, if it causes us to sin.